I thought for hours to myself "what do I want to talk about in my next blog", then it hit me. I was at a CPR class for my work over the weekend when my idea came to my mind. I was blabbering on and on to my coworker Bella about my boyfriend and I. She's an older woman, so I figured shed have a good look on the situation. She gave me a piece of advice I'll never forget! COMPLIMENT MORE! That's what she told me. It made perfect since. Us women spend so much time nagging men and telling them what we don't like or what they're doing wrong. I almost believe its in our nature to criticize them. It's our job. Sometimes we need to acknowledge their good work, Tell them they look good, and make them feel good about themselves. Everyone loves to be complimented!
I decided to try this out on my boyfriend as soon as I got home. I told Akeem, "Thank you for picking up the dog poop". He turned around, his face lit up. He looked shocked almost as if he never heard those words come out of my mouth before. It's sad that just the average thank you meant that much too him. That was my evidence I don't say it enough, I realized how big of an effect just a simple thank you or compliment can have on someone. Just this can do wonders on a relationship. After a long period of time being with someone, you tend to expect things. You start to feel they owe it to you to do those simple daily tasks. Once you start expecting people stop wanting to do things for you and then tension arrises. So take Bellas advice and try to nag less and compliment more. 
Great topic for an entry here. I like how you naturally lead into the discussion of your actual post with the story about your coworker. A bit more development in the "body" of this entry would take it to the next level. You are on the right track.
ReplyDeleteWow. Great insights. I never think about that with the people in my life, especially the men. I find myself very negative with men, because of the differences in how they communicate. But the common ground being something as simple as a "Thank you" never registered as that big to me before. I might start being a little more thankful for the men in my life.
ReplyDeleteDang. Your right we always point out what mean are doing wrong and never what they do right. This was a wake up call to be great full to what they do.
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